Don’t be Naïve when using Dating Websites

 

As we enter the midway point to 2011, more and more people have experienced what it is like to date online.  Gone are the days where it was taboo to meet someone from the Internet. Dating websites like eharmony and Match.com have been around for awhile, but now, additional dating sites are popping up like crazy. So yeah, dating online has now become part of our everyday culture, and many couples can attest to their attributes with their own success stories of how they found “the one” by dating online.

 

However, every now and then, we hear of an online dating encounter gone horribly wrong.  Yes, we still live in a scary world, and the big, bad wolf is still wandering around out there.  Now, he wanders around online too.  When we hear these stories, it doesn’t mean we should rule out online dating altogether.  But we should see them as cautionary tales, and realize not to take anything or anyone for granted.  You cannot be naïve and believe that you are 100 percent safe when you hook up with someone online.

 

Now, don’t start getting too paranoid.  But heed the advice, and use your common sense.  Online dating works; you just need to be smart about how you proceed.  Some of these examples seem like no-brainers, but you would be surprised what type of information people give out to total strangers when they are feeling vulnerable and desperate for love.

 

• Don’t give out personal information like your street address, place of employment or social security number for that matter.  I know, I know…why would you give your social security number to a prospective date?  Maybe you wouldn’t, but some people have been known to fall for outlandish cons.
• When you’re first getting to know your online date, hold off on letting him know your last name.  There’s plenty of time for that, and it’s not necessary when you’re first getting to know each other.  Again, don’t be paranoid, but trust is essential so always err on the side of caution.
• When you’re meeting in person, always meet in a public place.  Again, this may seem like a no-brainer, but it needs to be stated.  And even after meeting in a public place, don’t suddenly go off with him because you think everything is fine.  Stay in the public place for those first few dates.  Remember, if this person means you harm, they will do everything they can to gain your trust and then make their move.  I’m not suggesting you run background checks on everyone you date, but you do need to feel confident this person is who he says he is.
• Trust your instinct.  Never underestimate the power of your gut.  It knows all.  If something feels a bit off, then it probably is.  Listen to your inner voice and if red flags are popping up, cut the date short.  Even if there’s nothing ominous about this guy, you’re not feeling it, so why prolong the date by staying there?  Get out, go home, and move on to someone who makes you feel truly comfortable.

 

Again, it’s all a matter of common sense.  Just don’t too complacent.  Use your best judgment and be safe out there.  But also, enjoy yourself and have some fun.  You might just meet the man of your dreams.

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